Is this statistic shocking to you? That 31% of all mothers HATE their bodies after having a baby? In my experience, your post-par tum body is just so far away from your pre-pregnancy body, you worry that you'll NEVER get back to what you once were and feeling good about yourself and your appearance again. It's hard. Very hard. Emotionally, mentally and physically to even muster up the motivation to focus on you again when you have a child that demands 110% of you!
Almost two-thirds of women say they worry their partner doesn't like their body, according to a Today Moms online, unscientific poll. Two-thirds of moms also say images of Hollywood moms looking super-fit after having a baby make them feel worse about themselves.
Getting more specific, 58% of all surveyed said their stomach is their least favorite body part. The biggest shocker to me though was when asked whether they’d rather have perfectly behaved kids for a month or the perfect body for a month, moms were split, with half choosing a model booty over model babies.
These statistics tell me a lot about our society and the judgments that we face as women post baby. With the societal pressures of being thin almost instantaneously after giving birth, how can we expect to feel "normal" when still facing our imperfections that chip away at our self confidence daily?
I'm not Beyonce. I don't have nanny's to take care of my children around the clock while I focus on getting "me" back. I choose to spend any and all free time with my kids. Forgive me for not being selfish three weeks post delivery.
I'm not Heidi Klum and have 4 extra hours a day to work out.
I'm not Kourtney Kardashian that has a extra sixty million dollars to hire a personal trainer to come to my house to work me out daily.
I'm definitely not Brooke Burke who has a personal chef to make sure my proteins are balanced with my carbohydrates. I'm trying to make sure I'm nourished enough to continue breastfeeding my newborn and give him what HE deserves -- which is not the "master cleanse".
I am me. A mother who works tirelessly and endlessly in every way possible to make sure my kids have, and will have, a stable home filled with love. Would I love nothing more than to have my body back and feel confident about myself physically -- absolutely! However, I know what I'm doing now is the most important thing I will ever be responsible for doing. Nothing can replace me or what I give to my kids.
My body may never be the same again, but thanks to god blessing me with two beautiful children, neither will I.